After more than 20 years of working in people and behavior, it has become crystal clear how important values are. They are at the heart of all decision making and actions. That is why it is worth considering whether we are consciously directing our conscience into practice: aligning daily practice with mere ideas or theory.
It may seem a bit cheesy, which goes well with onion, but human beings, like the vegetable, are multi-layered. Peeling off the layers can also cause tears. The first layer, the external layer that we usually reveal or see, is "how" we prefer to function. Behavioral profiling tools, such as DISC, help clarify this. Yet they simply indicate a preference in function, much like a computer operating system. We peel a little deeper to understand our motivations, or & # 39; why & # 39 ;:
- Organic (if you're hungry, eat!)
- External motivation (salary, commissions or bribes for the kids!) )  Internal Motivation
There is certainly a link between the major internal driving fire and your values. Even then, our motivations can subtly shift over time, like the Earth's crust, while the values remain in place at the core. A third layer can be different intelligences: IQ and EQ. These are our ability to "do", to put things into action. Again, while strong on values, this layer is not the default for explaining everything.
Humans are not only onions, but are also like icebergs. Water is the universal symbol for emotion and we spend our lives immersed in feelings. Daniel Kahneman (behavioral economist, psychologist) was awarded a Nobel Prize in 2002 for showing how much of our decision making takes place on an emotional, often unconscious, level. With this in mind, like floating, erupting lumps of ice, our beliefs were also under the surface as a result of EE (Everything Else!): Influences such as environment, parenthood or life events that shape us from formative years to the value-driven mini adults of & # 39; who & # 39; we actually become.
Provocations for your personal values
Look in a mirror of self-reflection, you good looking you! Ask yourself some provocative questions or think about simple tools, some of which are described here, to discover true values. Do actions match words? We may be able to sing a beautiful song about respect for the environment, but if we accept every plastic bag, choose not to neutralize CO2 emissions or repeatedly insult heavy food waste or litter, does that even sound like a core value?
We can also join a beautiful choir that stands up for charities to lend our voices to perform. It's worth asking, "why"? What is the real motivation? We even have some sort of sheriff who wears a badge, who searches publicly expressed feelings to see if the underlying character is really someone's position. Virtual signaling makes an appearance of our values, if we want to tell Holden Caulfield, J.D Salinger, Catcher In The Rye, all on this topic.
Our fears and setbacks may also be a clue. The things that greatly frustrate you: especially things related to external situations or the actions of others. Just make sure that, as an objective measure, the annoyances aren't just due to the fact that you're a control freak, having or getting things our own way.
Discovering personal values requires strategies like these, which we can bundle into a single concept: "look at the mirror". You need to ask yourself questions of better quality with the willingness to carry your soul to the mirror on the wall.
- Considering basic needs (shelter, security, food, a sense of belonging are ticked boxes) what is really important to you?
- ] Who would you spend more time with, what would you spend more time on, and what would you choose to stand for?
We can even use predefined value lists, as there is no shortage of possible buzzwords. Keep in mind the other ideas mentioned above so that you don't feel forced or attached to the meaning of a single word. Take a deep breath, which ones make your shoulders drop, do you feel like a tailored suit or at home?
Self-reflection and moral worth
By self-reflection we can tap into our practice, slap our helm and grasp conscious value management. In doing so, we will find the wisdom that classical scholars have alluded to: peace and greater success through a better alignment in our worlds. The etymology of the word value itself has roots in Latin, Middle English and French.
Value: Being of value: moral worth. Perhaps use that as a final check
5 Ways to Determine Your Values
- Identify traits you are most passionate about. In addition, when you do this, consider which of these you are definitely in the conversation. Where words and actions are completely aligned, chances are that values are at work.
- Retrieve a list of pre-identified values, such as an available online inventory, or download and the blue sky will recognize a longer list of its own. After doing this, work through it, sort of like trying on a top dress or suit. Which ones fit well and feel like you the most.
- Look at your world and identify the top 5 to 10 people you respect and admire. Identify traits in those you respect. And you may also recognize similarities in themes. These are clues to what you value most.
- Keep a deeper journal of self-reflection for a period of time. Include things like what you invest your time in, what you read, who you spend time with, the goals you pursue and how you will achieve them. In the midst of these self-reflections, as you look at the mirror, you will see a number of values at play.
- What are the things in life that frustrate or upset you the most? Think about social goals and community. Dive deeper into this and ask what it is that stirs up the emotions. There may be indications here that your values or are irritated.
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